Understanding the Importance of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful thing. It can transform your life and the lives of those around you. But it’s easy to misunderstand forgiveness and use it as an excuse to let people walk all over you. When we talk about forgiveness, we tend to focus on the offender—what they need to do in order for us to forgive them. That misses an important point about forgiveness: It’s not something that happens between the two parties involved in an offense; it’s something that happens within one party. Forgiveness isn’t about getting someone else off the hook or letting him or her off easy; it’s about me getting free from my own anger and resentment toward that person (or group).

Forgiveness is admitting that I have been hurt.

In order to forgive, you must first admit that you have been hurt. You cannot forgive someone if you are denying your pain. Forgiveness is a choice, not an obligation or a result of what someone else does or doesn’t do. It’s about accepting your emotions and allowing yourself to move on from the situation no matter how painful it may be. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing the wrongs done against us by another person or group of people; it is not ignoring what has happened; it does not mean condoning another person’s actions; and it certainly doesn’t mean reconciling with them (if they are unwilling).

It simply means giving up our right to feel anger towards an individual who has hurt us in some way. It means letting go of our feelings so we can heal ourselves and move forward in life without being weighed down by resentment towards others’ actions against us – whether intentional or unintentional – which will only lead down paths filled with negativity and unhappiness if left unchecked.”

Forgiveness is telling the truth about my enemy.

Forgiveness is telling the truth about my offender. The first thing that forgiveness does is to tell the truth about my offender and his or her sin. If I refuse to forgive, then I am refusing to acknowledge that this person has done something wrong against me, and this means I’m refusing to acknowledge their humanity and their pain. Many times people may hurt or offend you because of their pain in their own life.

The second thing forgiveness does is tell the truth about myself as well: it affirms that there was nothing inherently evil in what they did; they were simply acting out of ignorance or weakness (or both). When we refuse to forgive others, we are actually saying by our actions that they deserve punishment; but when we forgive them, we are saying instead that they don’t deserve condemnation—that all sinners have been forgiven by God himself! And so if anyone should be punished for anything at all—if anyone should be condemned—then it’s not them but ourselves!

Forgiveness is surrendering my right to get even.

Forgiveness is not giving up, it is surrendering. It is giving over to God the right to deal with the offender and demanding justice for wrongs committed against you. To forgive is to realize that I am no longer able to control what happens in my life or how people treat me. It means I must give up my right to get even and trust that God will do what is best for me. Forgiveness does not mean that I condone someone else’s behavior or excuse their actions, but it does mean that I release them from any debt of guilt they owe me as well as releasing myself from any obligation of hating them or living with bitterness toward them (Romans 12:19).

Forgiveness is releasing my enemy from the debt he owes me.

Forgiveness is the act of releasing someone from their debt to you. It’s not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength; it isn’t an act of acceptance, but an act of acceptance.

The practice is humble and selfless, and not just because it requires me to put my own needs aside as much as possible in order to do what’s right (which is something I struggle with). It also demands that I give up all hope that my enemy will ever repay his debt or return what was stolen from me—and this can be hard to do when we’re so emotionally invested in our desire for revenge!

Forgive your enemy and you are free, keeping anger has a price.

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, your enemy and God. It’s the way out of anger and bitterness. When you forgive, you are free from resentment and the desire for revenge.

Forgiveness is also a gift to the world because it releases all of us from being imprisoned by our pasts.

The bottom line is that forgiveness is a choice. If we choose to hold on to anger, resentment, and desire for revenge, then we get what we want. But if we choose to forgive, we get something better: freedom from the burden of anger and a clear conscience. We might not be able to control everything that happens in our lives or how others act towards us, but when it comes down to it—we always have control over our own reactions